Here are 2 great quotes from book I'm currently reading.
The only way for you [to] be truly free is to link your feeling to an obligation. Only if you commit yourself to loving in action, day in and day out, even when feelings and circumstances are in flux, can you truly be a free individual and not a pawn of outside forces. (Tim Keller The Meaning of Marriage pg. 97)
Bad things happen when maturity is more defined by knowing than it is by being. Danger is afloat when you come to love the idea more than the God whom they represent and the people they are meant to free. (Paul Tripp Dangerous Calling pg. 43)